By Nicole Pecoraro of Mom Transparenting
Last weekend was my birthday, and I spent some time reflecting on all of the reasons why getting old can have its benefits. You can do what you want, you don’t have to answer to anyone (at home, at least), and you finally (hopefully) have your shit together. at least enough to feel comfortable in your own skin.
But there are so many parts to getting older that just flat out suck. And those parts aren’t going away anytime soon. Actually, they are probably only going to get worse as time goes on. Ughhhh.
My face looks like I should have used sunscreen a lot sooner.
When I was younger, we would lather ourselves up with baby oil and sit by a friend’s pool, letting the rays reflect off of our beautiful, cellulite-free bodies while we giggled and planned our nights out with the boys we were fawning over. Little did I know that years later that same face would be littered with sun spots and wrinkles that could have EASILY been avoided if I would have just put the damn tin foil down and thrown on a hat instead. Thank god for Botox, right?
My ass is droopy; so are my tits.
And my chin, my arm flaps, my belly…. let’s be real. It’s all droopy. Every time I look in the mirror, something else has fallen a few inches from where it was the day before. As I’m writing this right now, my under eye bags have migrated down to my cheeks and my jowls are now on my shoulders. YAY!
I hear people get more patient as they age, but for me, that couldn’t BE more of a goddamn lie.
I have ZERO patience. I can’t even wait in a short line at Target without running through all of the things I could have done in those precious minutes I was stuck in line. I get irrationally angry when someone cuts me off in the school pickup line or leaves toothpaste in the sink. I have no patience. Maybe in my next decade that perk will come?
I also don’t sleep anymore.
Even though my kids are starting to age out of being up all night (although they sure DO still wake up many nights, don’t get it twisted), my mind races until the wee hours of the night. And if by chance tonight is the night where my brain can’t take anymore and does me a favor by clocking out early, my bladder doesn’t. It makes a cameo appearance by way of stabbing stomach and vaginal pain around 2, 3:30, and 4 am.
I can’t even clean the house anymore without searing back pain, so laundry is definitely NOT happening on the same day. I don’t choose my chore completion goals based off of time or energy; for me, it is determined by how many discs in my spine I can agitate before I am laid up in bed for the next day. And if I have a good back day, then I get hit with a massive migraine instead because ADULTING IS FUN!
You have come to terms with your mortality, and it scares the shit out of you.
You now astutely feel every single nerve jolt, every tight muscle, every taco that manifests in crippling heartburn, and you start to convince yourself you might not make it to bedtime.
Which brings me to anxiety. Sweet, sweet anxiety.
It’s the only thing that manages to keep you awake through the worst possible time of day, the night. You panic at the smallest things because you now have these tiny beings who rely on you, and even though most days you’re convinced you are doing it ALL. WRONG. you still know that you are the best parent for these monsters. No one else could handle their bullshit bedtime tantrums or their horrid homework meltdowns. You can’t leave them yet; they are just starting to sleep through the night finally!
Adulting brings LOADS of joy. Peeing when you cough, listening to the soothing sound of your joints pop as you take a leisurely stroll to the kitchen for the fifth time because you can’t remember what the fuck you came in there for, and then finally having a revelation at 3 am and feeling compelled to get out of bed and do something about it.
Spending all of your “free time” working on your house while tiny humans troll behind you and destroy every inch of your hard work until you give up and just let the whole house go to shit because you’re a goddamn adult and you can do that now.
I guess there is one good thing: as an adult, you get to be the one to say “fuck it” and grab a glass of wine, binge-watch Netflix, and order takeout because YOLO and all that other garbage. Cheers to growing older, bitches! (Careful, though; too much wine and you’ll be working that hangover off for at least a week now that you’re old.)
This post was originally published on Mom Transparenting.
About the Author
Nicole is a Realtor and divorced mom of three who lives with her family in a suburb of Chicago. In her overwhelming spare time as a single mom she enjoys turning off the lights everyone left on and writing about parenting, single mommyhood, divorce, and raising a young transgender child. She one day hopes to achieve her goals of an empty kitchen sink and a bathroom mirror free of toothpaste splatter. You can find her on her blog at momtransparenting.com. On Instagram at https://instagram.com/momtransparenting, Facebook at https://facebook.com/momtranspareniting/ and Twitter at https://twitter.com/momtransparent1