By Sane Mama
Hey, we can all imagine that it can be a little difficult when your ex has moved on and had more kids with another woman. But, get over it, that ship has sailed…
Instead, here are five things you should do to put your own feelings aside and be supportive of their new family:
1. Talk endlessly about how perfect the new baby is. Definitely wait until your own child is in the room to make the biggest deal of all. Because, after all, you must model your incredible ability to put your own feelings aside in light of the situation. If your child is jealous, well, they’ll get over it.
2. Offer to babysit the kids. Don’t worry, it’s not awkward at all for anyone involved if you offer to watch the little ones while your ex and his new partner go out on a date. I mean, we are all just one big happy family, right?
3. Come up with special nicknames for his new kids. His new wife will think nothing but just how sweet you are that you have your own special pet names for her children. The more affectionate the better. No need to refer to them by their given names ever again!
4. Follow and comment on every new picture on Facebook. You are a superhero now, first in line to comment on the goings on in their new family. It will make their mom feel so good to know how adorable you think her babies are. And don’t worry, her family and friends don’t mind seeing your comments plastered all over every post. Please remember to use lots of heart emojis and ‘love you’s when you do.
5. Insist on joint family events and holidays. Picture how perfect it will be if you can coordinate both families together around the Thanksgiving table. Everyone smiling and not an ounce of weirdness to be found. It will be so wonderful that no one will even remember the harsh words that were said during the breakup.
It’s so amazing that we can all put the not-so-distant past behind us and try to be one big happy family. For the sake of the children and all that jazz. I am sure there are so many other warm and fuzzy things that all you ladies do to welcome the new kids. I love to hear more ideas. “Sharing is caring!”
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About the Author
Sane Mama is short for “Barely Sane” Mama, “Wish I Were Saner” Mama, and “I’m Running Away Until I Find Sanity” Mama. Follow her as she attempts to fight the impending chaos of parenting, stepparrenting, wifing, working and otherwise juggling at TheSanityPlan.com, @TheSanityPlan on Twitter, and @TheSanityPlan on Facebook.