How do you know you’re in a relationship with a dickhead? Well, one obvious red flag is having a partner who criticizes your physical appearance followed up with a threat of losing attraction. This situation may be foreign to some, but for 23-year-old Shelby, this was her crushing reality as of late.
Shelby shared a text conversation on Twitter as she asked for opinions on whether or not she was overreacting to her boyfriend’s insensitive, rude comments. In her post, she writes, “I am 120 pounds. I have been for about 5 months. My partner said this to me. Am I overreacting for feeling hurt by this? I’m at a loss and just can’t even comprehend how someone who claims to love me can say this.”
Included in her post were screenshots of a texting conversation between her and her boyfriend. After Shelby openly admits concern with her partner’s attraction to her and the need to look a certain way, her boyfriend responds with, “The main issue is your gut might stick out more than mine, and that’s just weird.”
The verbal garbage continues as he explains this isn’t the first time he’s expressed his disapproval over her physical appearance. “Yeah it’s not like I haven’t told you you’ve been gaining and need to lose anyway.”
What. A. Dick.
When Shelby inquired if he was becoming less attracted to her, his response was, “I don’t think so, but I will if it keeps going…But you’re definitely getting a beer gut babe.”
And the award for the prickiest ahole of a boyfriend goes to [insert drumroll]…this guy!
In a separate tweet, Shelby goes on to explain her struggles with body weight: “My journey of my body has been long. In high school I was 80-90 and my doctors never figured out why I couldn’t keep on weight. At 20, I started gaining. When I did, I never felt happier and more healthy. I worked hard for this body. I am 120 pounds of pure growth.”
And the response? The fine people of Twitter showed overwhelming love and support both by validating her feelings and defending her beauty and health, and then, of course, dished a heavy dose of advice to get rid of him – which I think it’s safe to say, we all agree with.
Me trying to find the “beer gut” pic.twitter.com/AMdeJhNG1h
— Foxx (@SonOfWillSmith) March 31, 2018
Break up with them now.
It's only going to get worse. Five months is still the honeymoon phase. If it's like this now, a year down the line is gonna be awful.
— Ali B (@wtflanksteak) March 31, 2018
I’d say this is an appropriate reaction pic.twitter.com/o0H7MMiMse
— Paul Vedier (@paulawalla120) April 1, 2018
You deserve better and I hope you find better. You don't deserve that.
— eLove' (@eLoveCAP) April 4, 2018
For those wondering the status of their relationship, Shelby later posted an update that had everyone responding with a ‘YAASSSS, HONEY!’
This post has since gone viral and then some as it’s received over six thousand comments in approval of her wise decision to drop her insensitive, body-shaming boyfriend, but Shelby’s story goes beyond the fact that you shouldn’t tell your partner they’re getting a beer gut and starting to become less attractive to them.
It’s a demonstration of the importance of self-worth, body positivity and an overall journey to being happy and healthy – and if that means dumping 180 pounds of boyfriend, then so be it.