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What You Can Do Now Before the Next Mass Shooting

There are so many ways to take action, now, before the next mass shooting. Because we know there will be another. So call. Join an organization. Donate.

By Kate Mayer

I got an email from an old neighbor from some 20 years ago. Twenty. Way back when I was the young mom in Bath, Ohio, had three kids under three feet tall, was pregnant with the fourth, and wasdesperate for a good babysitter, her daughter came to our rescue. Back in 1999, Columbine happened and I sat, pregnant, crying, staring at the TV, wondering how in the world a kid could do something so horrific.

Now I know. Below is my response to this old friend, with what I wish I did then, but is not too late to do now:

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Hi M!

Of course I remember you and your amazing daughter! You were sandblasting and painting your fireplace way back when. And I think often of conversations we had about race, writing and careers, and yes, Anna Quindlen and oh, well. Here we are. So very very happy to hear from you, even if for such a very screwed up world we live in.

So sorry for the delay responding; shootings often send me back to bed and offline, always offline, for a few days/weeks/months while I regroup and try to come up for air. I lost no one at Sandy Hook, my kids were much older then: the youngest in 7th grade, two at the high school, and one at college when it happened.

It.

And yet still, I knew far too many people and attended far too many funerals, and, well, the aftermath haunts me and the overwhelming grief returns. And I lost no one.

Okay. Sadly, I have 5 long years of experience with gun violence prevention. I’ve written a lot about it on my blog, www.kathrynmayer.com, which you may have already discovered.

1. Call your reps often. For New Year’s 2017 in the aftermath of Trump, I decided every time I’d post or write something political on social media, I would call my representatives, which is far more persuasive than bitching into the internet.

ESPECIALLY IN OHIO.

Put their numbers into your phone and call often. There’s an app also, called 5calls which makes it very easy to address current issues, of which GVP (gun violence prevention) is seldom on the list, but sadly and gladly due to Parkland pressure, it is today. I just checked.

2. JOIN THE LOCAL GROUP. With the clusterfuck in Washington, I strongly suggest you act locally, as locally as possible. Join Ohio Against Gun Violence, which will work on making Ohio’s gun laws strong. If you’re gonna write a check to anyone, write it to them. Tell them you have a friend in Newtown who volunteers often with CT Against Gun Violence and says state-level is where it’s at. Period. I firmly believe that state-by-state, we’ll get this shit done. Just like gay marriage. States will dictate what will be done federally. In my not-so-humble opinion.

3. Join a national GVP movement. The national movements are effective in calls to action: they’ll text, call, email you when they need you to contact Congress to apply pressure. It matters. Gabbi Giffords group (previously Americans for Responsible Solutions, now just Giffords), and groups like Moms Demand Action aka Everytown for Gun Safety (well funded by Bloomberg) will also let you know where, when, who to call when legislative pressure is needed. Ditto with Brady CampaignCoalition to Stop Gun ViolenceKeep Guns Off Campus.

Newtown Action Alliance has a national presence with true grass roots advocacy working hard to create a coalition of groups. It shouldn’t be hard but it is. There are 100s of groups, literally. Sandy Hook Promise. The Avielle Foundation. Grandmas Against Gun Violence. Find specific Newtown Sandy Hook orgs listed here. Find one that aligns with you and get their updates.

They’ll do the heavy lifting; you’ll just email or call when they need it.

4. Support GVP candidates. At every level. Dog catcher, Board of Education, zoning board of appeals, mayor, state rep, state senator. Ask where they stand on GVP and if they say, well, it’s a mental health issue or, well, the 2nd amendment, move along. Period. Gun laws will only be changed by people who vote. It’s about the math. If 80% of people want BGC (background checks) and 30% of the people vote, well, hello POTUS Trump. GOTV (get out the vote) is the most important thing to do for smart safe gun laws. It’s not about the guns: it’s about the math. And civics. Midterms matter.

Twitter is an amazing tool for contacting politicians. You’d be surprised.

Okay. Thanks for helping me get my head out of my grief and write this down. I have a pretty influential online presence, but after these shootings – and how sick is it that it’s plural – I find it hard to get back out there and listen to Facebook rants and Twitter tirades when actually, the pressure needs to be on the people who represent us.

And voting. The number one way to stop the gun violence epidemic is voting. Not sure if this is or is not what you’re looking for. I appreciate you reaching out more than you’ll ever know.

Kathy Mayer

PS: Katie was just amazing. I always hoped my kids would grow up and be just like her. And they did. You done good, mama.

PPS: I may repurpose this email into a blog post. Thanks for that.

This post was originally published on kathrynmayer.com.

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About the Author

Kate Mayer is a writer, humorist, and activist writing out loud at www.kathrynmayer.com about life as she lives it in Newtown, CT. She is occasionally funny on Instagram & Twitter as @KLMcopy, and plays well with others on Facebook at Kathryn-Mayer. She’s a recent, reluctant inductee into AARP, mom of four almost grown large, hairy-ass kids, and an aspiring writer with rejections to prove it. Her works appears on-line at Cosmopolitan, Good Housekeeping, Scary Mommy, BluntMoms, Purple Clover, Erma Bombeck Writers’ Workshop, Grown & Flown, Midlife Boulevard, The Good Men Project, and she is a proud Listen To Your Mother NYC alum.