Packing lunch for kids is hard. Between making sure there are enough foodstuffs available each day to shoving things in a bag while yelling at the kids to change their underwear and put on the shoes they can’t find right in front of their faces every morning, it’s enough to drive a parent to the brink of insanity.

But when parents finally do manage to miraculously get things in order, only to find out once the kids get home that they’ve been lunch-shamed by the school for what they’ve sent in? Well, that’s enough to make a parent homicidal. And one Australian mom, the latest victim in what appears to be the school lunch-shaming trend, is all too familiar with the feeling.

According to a post on the Oh So Busy Mum Facebook page, a mom in the page administrator’s Lunchbox Ideas Australia group was sent the following “friendly reminder” to help promote proper nutrition by sending in acceptable snacks for her child.

The snack in question is a packet of Sultanas, which are white grapes resembling raisins. According to the child’s school, the snack “is unacceptable at kindy due to its high sugar content.”

If you read the part of the note that precedes the identification of the snack crime, it says, “Acceptable items include: Fresh/dried or tinned/packaged fruit/vegetables,” among a few other things. And, uh, call me crazy, but AREN’T RAISINS ESSENTIALLY DRIED FRUIT?

But that’s not even the issue for me. The issue is DON’T FUCKING TELL PARENTS WHAT THEY CAN AND CANNOT PACK FOR THEIR KIDS’ LUNCH. Unless the child’s lunch contains moonshine, heroin balloons, and/or a sandwich baggie full of lead paint chips, GTFO.

Now, here’s the part where I tell you I’m all for promoting healthy eating in kids. Because I am. I mean, I am down with Michelle Obama’s soon-to-be-overturned school lunch reforms and everything. But when a parent sanctions something as innocent as raisins or a cookie or a couple potato chips now and again? Nunya business, school.

This doesn’t mean I don’t think schools should interfere in the parent-child realm when necessary. I mean, when a school suspects abuse, for example, absolutely it should intervene, and when a school has helpful information to share about healthy child development and nutrition measures parents can take, I’m more than grateful for the occasional flyer or brochure.

But scolding parents for sending in some gotdamned raisins with the equivalent of a parental lunch referral? Is this some kind of Punk’d documentary I’m unaware of? And does it go on our permanent records?

I’d love to say I’m the perfect lunch packer, but that’s just not true. Most times I’m scrambling to balance animal crackers and juice boxes with the right amount of raw veggies and fruits to even out the equation. Just today I packed my kids leftover pizza and cookies because THAT’S WHAT WE HAD. But I’m trying.

And who is the school to comment on a situation they know nothing about anyway? Maybe that’s all this mom could afford to send in. Maybe it’s the only thing her child will eat, and when you have a child who struggles to ingest the right number of calories to maintain a healthy weight, sometimes you have to make exceptions to dietary rules. Maybe it’s something else entirely. I mean, they don’t know us. They don’t know our address.

Also, and perhaps most importantly, I’m the parent, not the school. If I allow my kids a little treat now and then, so be it. Everything in moderation.

And when schools — the same institutions that serve grilled cheese, tacos, french toast sticks dripping in syrup, and chicken nuggets for hot lunch — have the gall to call parents out for a fruit snack of all things?

That’s a whole lotta hell to the no right there.